Happy 2018 guys!
If you follow me on Instagram (or talk to me in real life), you know that I just got back from a three week trip of a lifetime in India. As to be expected, it was MIND BLOWING and MIND OPENING at the same time. I feel so grateful for the trip and am still putting together my thoughts on the lessons I learned and the things I will carry forward with me into the future.
Rather than writing a huge India recap (at least for now), I thought it would be easier to share some of my ah-ha's piece meal. I know Twitter upped their characters from 140 but we're still ADD and we still like a short read. And one of my goals this year is to write a LOT more. These tips will be in no particular order other than their relevance to my life at that moment.
THE POWER OF SLOWING DOWN
When I came back from vacation, I felt AMAZING - vacation high is real. One of the factors that I realized made such a difference was that I actually felt relaxed and rested EVEN THOUGH we had traveled SO MUCH while we were in India and I had just traveled for 24 hours to get home. I believe this is because while our days were packed, they were singular in focus. And that we created space before and after the events of our days to decompress, relax, and take it all in.
Too often, I find myself rushing from place to place: from work, to the gym, to the grocery store. From workout class to brunch to the bar to another bar. From coaching back to work to a date to then meet up with friends afterwards. Life as I've created it is basically non-stop. And it's a forward motion that I myself often haven't consciously created. Instead, I'm responding to the demands of others on my time. Now, don't get me wrong, these demands are often things I want to do with people I want to see. But the squeezing and layering of multiple things on multiple things until I'm not even thinking I'm just DOING is where I'm starting to see that life unravels a bit. Where I start showing up as someone other than my best, most conscious self.
Today, I'm practicing choosing a few things and doing them consciously, joyfully and with an open heart. To do that, I am creating space to care for myself before and after. And that means a bit of slowing down. That means I can't jam pack as many things into my day. That means I may have to go against what the group is doing and choose myself first. Which is something that certainly feels scary to me and is sometimes hard, but that is so worth it. Because I'd rather deeply enjoy two things than show up through five.
I used the word practicing for a reason. As with every lifestyle change, this takes practice. I didn't come back from India and suddenly become a different person. In fact, I slipped back into old habits pretty quickly my first weekend back. Creating a different outcome means choosing a different decision - and choice requires you to be conscious. Today I'm choosing to be conscious. I'm choosing space. and I'm choosing me.
Have you tried creating more space in your life? I'd love to hear more about what that has done for you.