Last night, Bryce and I were lucky enough to be on the floor for the Lady Gaga show at Citi Field. Someone at work had been offered the tickets, and for inexplicable reasons, no one wanted them. So, I jumped at the chance, and decided that Bryce and I needed to hang out outside of the wellness world. It was the perfect opportunity.
Fast forward 14 hours later and our luck kept coming. We breezed through the security line at the stadium though Bryce's wife Bridget had warned of miserable wait times. We basically chose even better seats on the floor and were the only row not to fill up. We arrived 5 minutes before Gaga went on though many the night before had complained of a 1:30 hour delay the evening before. We walked out of the stadium and onto the first train that we saw while others around us were held up in a mass of people.
It was hard to ignore our good fortune last night.
In between Gaga's many costume changes, Bryce and I spoke about the power of asking for what you want -- and getting really big in that ask. Bryce explained that recently, he'd realized that the only person holding him back from getting WHATEVER he wanted in life was him. He brought up several examples in his business as a feng shui master & coach where he had been too afraid to ask for what he now knows he deserves. When he finally decided that there was no reason he didn't deserve what he was asking for, he immediately started getting what he wanted. The universe rose to the occasion.
The truth is, we can have whatever we want in this life (whether or not you believe in "manifesting").
You just have to believe that you're deserving.
And that belief is a choice.
I want you to take a second and look at your life over the past few years. Isn't it true that most things that you've wanted you've gotten? And that the things that you really believed you could have came the easiest? A good place to look for examples of this for a lot of people is work- because it's a more common trajectory, most people are conditioned to believe that they can succeed at work. The more often we see something happen, the more we believe it is possible for ourselves.
The same principles can apply for the BIG THINGS. The things you're too afraid to ask for. The things you don't believe are possible. The things you're afraid you don't deserve. The things you just won't let yourself imagine because you don't want to get hurt or be let down.
As Bryce said last night, why the fuck wouldn't you ask for the $600 a night villa?
Maybe you're saying to yourself "I'll never get the villa. I can't afford it. I've never stayed in a place that nice and neither has anyone I know. So I can't see myself there." Maybe subconsciously you're saying "I wouldn't fit in at a place like that" or "I don't deserve to be there."
I will say it again: why the fuck wouldn't you ask for what you want?
Who are you to not deserve everything you want in life?
The only person who is stopping you is you.
The only opinion that matters is yours.
And you get to decide.
Will you ask for the $600 villa? Or will you settle for the Marriott because it's what you think is possible for you?
You set the limits on the realm of possibility for yourself.
You get to choose.
Choose the fucking villa.
p.s. if there is something you really want and are struggling to get, often it's a matter of shifting your belief system around that thing. I struggled for years around disbelief that I deserved a loving partner, for example. Bryce struggles to believe he deserves to make money (sorry to blow up your spot B!). We all have these semi-unconscious things we're conditioned to believe aren't possible for us or are HARD. All it takes is a bit of consciousness and a bit of work, and the change will come - often faster than you think. I'm happy to work with you to help make those shifts happen. Get in touch here!