Are you Highly Feeling?
/I stumbled upon the phrase "Highly Sensitive Person" on Instagram a few weeks ago (normal when you following 1 billion wellness people). A few things struck me about this phrase:
1. I suddenly had a name for everything that had ever happened in my life, and
2. I was deeply repulsed by it because it sounds so.... wimpy
We'll start with point #1. I had found three words to encapsulate every struggle, every thought and every action in my past, present, and future. Three words that spoke to the kind of people I want to help and work with and that make me want to write a ton of blog posts. Three words that turned my self-diagnosed anxiety into a much broader and more easily understandable state of being.
I couldn't have said it better myself...
Except that, I could. There is something about the word sensitive that just evokes negativity. It doesn't feel good to self identify as a HSP. It feels laden with shame. We're told growing up not to be too sensitive, to toughen up, to smile and suck it up.
But what I've learned over the past few years of delving deeply into my feelings is that feeling ashamed of them is the worst possible choice we can make. And that my innate feelingness is actually one of the best traits I possess.
I've taken to calling HSPs "Highly Feeling." It just feels better, ya know? And as a feeler, I know that's important.
Are you Highly Feeling? Here are a few ways that you can tell:
- You've been called sensitive more than a few times in your life (including and not limited to work, school, friendship and love situations).
- Every day is different. One day you feel on top of the world, the next you're deeply sad. It's variable and ever-changing. You just have to "see how you feel" before making decisions.
- You're highly introspective.
- You're a people pleaser or at least very good at making others feel comfortable and reading the room.
- You're deeply moved by books, movies, TV, art, music, puppies (jk we all are)... etc. And you've probably dabbled in creating some or all of the above.
- You may be more sensitive to physical sensations (eg. loud noises, smells) and/or substances like caffeine than most.
- You're reading this blog post and nodding intently.
As a High Feels human, I feel you (obviously). And I want to help you shift your relationship with your feelings and your perception of them, or your Highly Feeling self, as wrong. I want to teach parents to stop labeling sensitivity as a weakness. And I want to take you all along for some serious feel sessions.
Does this resonate with you? Cool. I'll be writing about it more.
x
KT